Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADD/ADHD) Counseling for Boys and Men
ADHD in Boys
As the parent of a challenging child, moms often find themselves wondering what you can do to make them feel better.
A diagnosis of ADHD, or just poor organizational and social skills can make it difficult for children to succeed at home and school. As their parent, you feel like you've tried everything, but it seems like they still act out and just don't listen.
It's so frustrating seeing other parents appear to succeed at raising their children, while you're stuck apologizing to teachers, babysitters, or even strangers for your child's behavior.
If only your child came with an instruction manual on how to help them listen!
The good news is that most children respond well to a few parenting techniques and coping skills!
The bad news is that, until now, nobody was there to help you to recognize the specific areas that you are already doing well, and the things you could improve upon.
Our task will be to work together as a team to identify your child's areas of struggle and to implement well-researched techniques to help them improve.
When working together, you can expect:
- Improved focus at home and school
- Fewer arguments over chores or homework
- Better memory for the important conversations
- Less yelling to stop climbing furniture
- Fewer notes from the teacher or requests for parent-teacher conferences
- Improved ability to take responsibility for his actions
- To learn key parenting skills to help your son succeed
- How to reward the behaviors you like, instead of unintentionally rewarding the bad
- To more easily remember all the things you love about your son
Don’t wait to get your son the help he needs
ADHD Symptoms in Children
One of the first questions parents ask when their child is acting out consistently or having problems at school is, "could my child have ADHD?"
I know you've read about it since it seems every other child gets the diagnosis either at school or from their primary care doctor. ADHD is a developmental disorder that affects a child's ability to control their impulses and concentrate on things they don't find interesting (e.g., school).
ADHD comes in three flavors: inattentive type, hyperactive type, and combined type.
Inattentive type is when a child has difficulty concentrating and remaining on task, but does not demonstrate hyperactive behaviors. Because of this (not standing out as "bad" or "hyper"), these kids often are not identified until they fall behind at school without an obvious reason.
Hyperactive type is more easily identified as parents will see their child running around, climbing, and jumping off things from an early age.
Combined type is simply having symptoms of both inattentive and hyperactive types.
ADHD diagnosis requires the presence of six symptoms in either type to meet criteria:
- Does not pay close attention to details and makes careless mistakes
- Difficulty sustaining attention
- Appears to not listen when spoken to
- Does not follow instructions, and fails to complete tasks (e.g., chores, schoolwork)
- Poor organizational skills
- Avoids tasks that require sustained mental effort
- Loses things required for tasks (e.g., school papers)
- Easily distracted
- Fidgets or taps hands or feet
- Difficulty staying in seat
- Runs and climbs in inappropriate situations
- Often unable to play or engage in leisure activities quietly
- Always seems to be moving and acts like they are "driven by a motor"
- Talks excessively
- Struggles to not blurt out an answer before a question is completed, or before it is his or her turn
- Often has difficulty waiting his or her turn
- Regularly interrupts or intrudes on others
Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder can cause strained relationships between parents and their children, difficulty making friends, and problems keeping up at school.
Early intervention is key in helping children and families develop skills and processes to overcome the challenges caused by ADHD.
It's also important to note that many other issues can cause symptoms that resemble ADHD, so it's helpful to involve a mental health professional to help understand what's truly going on.
In adults, ADHD looks very different than it does in children. Hyperactivity often diminishes, but the difficulty staying focused can causee problems at work and in relationships.
Men have the stereotype of never finishing projects, but I'm guessing that's an even larger struggle for you.
Do you forget when your wife asks you to do a specific chore?
Find yourself getting distracted during tedious moments at work?
Feel like your career isn't where you'd like it to be because of your ADHD?
Let's get things turned around
With our work together, you can expect to:
- Overcome impulsivity and learn to stay on track
- Get rid of procrastination
- Develop organizational systems that work for you
- Begin to manage your time effectively
- Manage stress
- Communicate effectively with your wife, kids, and boss
- Find strategies to help you prioritize tasks
- Feel in control for the first time in years... if ever!
In our work together, we'll focus on giving you immediate solutions to your problems and identifying next steps to solving them. We'll work together to plan effective strategies to rebuild your relationship, be more present with your family, and kick-start advancement in the workplace.
I don't take a one size fits all approach to ADHD counseling. Your individual obstacles and goals will dictate how fast we work and where we get started.