The answer is yes. Or no. Or it depends on the day?
Okay, so this one might get me into big trouble. Let me start out by saying that kids are awesome and I love my two little munchkins more than anything.
Now that that’s out of the way… are kids like Chinese water torture?
If that question horrified you, I apologize. It’s just a comparison that popped into my head one morning as my un-caffeinated brain was trying to keep our girls occupied when they had woken up way before the sun.Read More
When I tell people that I specialize in helping moms, I’ve occasionally been asked why. I think the fact that I’m a guy makes it seem a little strange.
It’s true. I can’t hide the fact that I’m a dude. A father. Distinctly NOT a mother.
I mean, I have a mother, and my wife is a mother. But that’s not really the reason why I focus on helping overwhelmed moms overcome stress, anxiety, or depression.
Of course I’ve always had tremendous respect for mothers.
You are expected to do the job of 7 people while keeping a smile on your face and looking pretty to boot.
It’s impossible.Read More
There is no denying it. Parenting. Is. Hard. My wife and I have split working and caregiving duties at various times, so we both gained a healthy respect for the challenges and blessings of both sides.
Working is difficult because you miss the kids, but you often get socialization and adult conversations throughout the day. Staying home is rewarding for the closeness that develops between parent and child, but there is very little rest and you start to wonder whether your conversational ability is going to be stuck at a 3 year old level forever. It’s so difficult to get that perfect balance of family, work, social, and personal life that lead to feeling fulfilled and happy.
But people have been raising kids successfully for thousands of years, why is it so hard for me?Read More
We love our kids, but that doesn’t mean we always like them. Children are programmed to test boundaries, which means breaking rules that we know they already understand. As soon as it seems like things are going smoothly, one child or another enters a phase of defiance. It can be so frustrating to continually be trying out different systems of discipline and feeling like they are ineffective. It’s overwhelming to check out Amazon.com’s parenting section (there were over 200,000 results for “parenting books”). Which book actually works? How do you know who to trust? What if I waste my time and money reading and it doesn’t work with my kids? Friend A says to try this method, but Friend B says that didn’t work for them. There are a million things that race through your head when trying to decide what to do next. I understand the frustration because we all know that every child is different, so you may even need several styles of discipline in your own home! While there are many methods out there, it seems there are several universals when it comes to discipline, which I will share here. Here are my top five tips for effective discipline.Read More
In earlier blogs I discussed the importance of getting on the floor and playing with your children Part 1 and Part 2. It’s not unusual for parents to come into therapy with their children and sheepishly comment on how they are not sure exactly how to play with their kids. And I can’t blame them! It’s not like there’s an instruction manual, or a course in school, and it just doesn’t come naturally to every parent. Here are five tips that I hope will make play time with your kids more enjoyable for both parent and child!Read More
In brief summary, playing with our kids allows us to build a strong relationship built on trust and respect that can carry through to adolescence when it is invaluable. Additionally, we are building little humans during the early years and it is important to recognize play time as an opportunity to teach many lessons that our children will carry with them. Kids learn through play and we can take advantage of that. There are several other reasons we should get on the floor with our children.Read More